You Will Not Heal By Going Back To What Broke You
Rumors are swirling after the breakup of high-profile couple Tinsley Mortimer, famous for her role on The Real Housewives of New York City, and Coupon Cabin CEO Scott Kluth last Friday.
For anyone not up to speed on all the juicy Bravo reality drama, Mortimer and Kluth met back in 2017 through Carole Radziwill, a former RHONY-er for five seasons. That means it’s been four whole years, lot of fights, and back-and-forth flights for the pair before things came crashing down (again) this month.
And despite the socialite picking up and moving to Chicago for her future hubby-to-be, it was apparently all for naught.
In a tell-all to Page Six, one of Mortimer’s friends claimed that their relationship was abusive and that Kluth was unreliable and misleading. “He tortured her. For years he would break up with her and get back together with her and break up with her again. But when he proposed, she believed he meant it. She left her career, she left her livelihood, she left her home, and suddenly he’s back to his old tricks again and he called off the engagement.”
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The proposal came in November of 2019, after more than two years of hot and cold, on-again, off-again dating. According to Mortimer’s unnamed friends, their relationship coming to a close completely blindsided the actress. “She didn’t want this. [Her] head is still spinning.”
Kluth’s own spokesperson is insisting that the breakup wasn’t a surprise and that it is being mischaracterized. “As Scott has already said, he wishes nothing but the best for Tinsley and is seeking to recover emotionally and move on.”
Obviously, as third parties, we’ll never know exactly where the truth lies, but there are still some good lessons here for the rest of us who can’t rely on publicists and PR representatives whenever our relationships fall apart.
The first bit of advice? Move on and never look back. If a relationship is blowing hot and cold, or is characterized by lots of fighting, disagreements or repeated breakups, there’s something fundamentally wrong with the partnership itself. Time won’t solve that, it’s best to cut your losses and find someone else.
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Next, assuming the rumors are true, Mortimer only quit her job after the promise of marriage. That’s a major red flag. Don’t let anyone issue you an ultimatum or hold you hostage to their affection.
And finally, even with a place in the spotlight, it’s best to bow out graciously and, if anything, allow yourself to take center stage again with an epic comeback. Kluth claimed he dodged cameras while Mortimer was on RHONY, but clearly wasted no time to issue a press statement about the breakup that made a huge splash
Mortimer is left to pick up the shattered pieces, sure, but if her former cast members’ support means anything — Leah McSweeney was quick to say she wants her pal back on the show ASAP — the Bravolebrity will surely find her footing (and a new beau) in no time.
