Flirt With Your Fingers Thanks to These 5 NSFW Apps
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AskMen’s List of the 5 Top-Rated Sexting Apps:
- 1. XMatch (Best for: steamy conversations)
- 2. Yumi (Best for: value)
- 3. Dust (Best for: spontaneous fun)
- 4. Wickr (Best for: exchanging photos/videos)
- 5. Confide (Best for: privacy)
No matter how you go about doing it, meeting someone in person to get your sexual fix requires a certain amount of time and energy, which makes sexting a popular, more immediate alternative. Sexting isn’t just for people in relationships. In fact, it’s a legitimate alternative to in-person hookups that offers the extra conveniences of saving time, effort, and money.
Sexting is also a safer outlet, seeing as you can stay more anonymous, and because you are hidden behind a digital screen you can let your inhibitions run wild. Sexting is often seen as the easier or lazier route to hooking up but don’t be fooled: it still requires some skill. Getting the conversation going with anyone online is challenging enough, but with sexting you need to finesse the direction of the conversation to get the sexual undertones flowing. While some women may respond to a simple “What are you wearing” cue, others are looking for their sexting partners to be more creative and/or more direct, coming up with new and exciting ways to turn both of you on without each other’s touch.
Whether you’ve been sexting with others since the days of flip phones, or are just getting interested in all that sexting has to offer, there are plenty of apps out there designed to help you find others for digital hookups quickly and easily, and ensure the information you share is safe and secure. Read on to discover the best hookup apps to get your sexting game on.
Qualities of a Great Sexting App
There are a few main qualities we look for in a sexting app:
- Discretion/Privacy
- Community of like-minded kinksters
- Ease of use
The first should be self-explanatory: you don’t want to go about writing about your most intimate fantasies with someone else, only to discover that all your personal information is available for all to see. It’s easier to be kinky when you know your real-life identity is secure.
But what about the community? Well, the simple truth is that, while it’s possible to meet sexting partners on any old dating app, you’ll have a much easier time if your app’s community is already pre-selected for kinky, sext-loving users. That’s why we prioritized apps with a dedicated following geared towards hookups and casual fun.
Finally, ease of use: you’re here to have fun, not spend 20 minutes figuring out a new user interface and enter your credit card and social security info just to speak with other people.
How to Sext
We wrote an entire guide on the art of sexting, but if brevity is your thing, here are a few rules to follow:
- Escalate slowly
- Feel out the other person’s interests
- Treat it like improv: agree and escalate
- Don’t ask for pictures if you aren’t also prepared to send them
The worst thing you can do is go from 0 to 100 too quickly, so be patient and enjoy the journey. If you do end up exchanging nudes, remember that there are better ways of taking a dick pic. And as always, exercise some discretion: you don’t want to be sending nudes in which you’re identifiable to total strangers.
The Best Apps for Sexting
1. XMatch
Best for: An entire night of steamy virtual adventures
Why we like it: Why chat just one match when you can join forums and group chats full of singles in your area sharing their fantasies? Logging on to XMatch feels like a sexy “choose your own adventure,” from the group and forum options in their “Sex Academy” to filters that allow you to search for matches based on what they prefer in the bedroom.
Pros: If things get hot and heavy textually and you want to take things to the next level virtually, XMatch has webcam capability to get the job done.
Cons: A basic profile is free, but if you’re looking to get in on XMatch’s more premium features, you’re looking at $20 a month.
2. Yumi (formerly Lucky)
Best for: Getting the most for your money
Why we like it: If your end goal is to get some steamy conversation going without risking your privacy, Yumi has got you covered.
Pros: There are no social accounts involved in the sign up process or an email address – all you need to get started is a photo (and it doesn’t have to be of your face, as the site suggestively states). Once you’ve found a match, users have a three-hour response window to get a steamy conversation going, which means no one’s shy about making the first move.
Cons: After their free month trial, you’ll need to fork over the $19.99 to keep the fun going – but can you really put a price on safe text?
3. Dust
Best for: In-the-moment sexting pleasure
Why we like it: For the most pleasurable sexting experience, let your guard down instantly when you communicate using Dust, the service that automatically turns everything you send to “dust” after 24 hours.
Pros: You can stick with the standard 24 hour time slot or customize messages to disappear even faster, such as immediately after they are opened. All content is highly encrypted so you can essentially delete messages off other people’s phones ensuring there’s no trace of your conversation. Other perks include the privacy of having your identity hidden on one-to-one messages and instant notifications if any screenshots are taken.
Cons: Because it’s so high on privacy, there’s bound to be instances where you don’t really know “who” you’re chatting with – which might put a damper in your textual escapades.
4. Wickr
Best for: Sending photos and videos
Why we like it: Sometimes, if you just want to communicate in a private, secure digital environment you can skip the online dating route and go straight to an app that is best known for trusted transmission of information such as Wickr.
Pros: The extremely secure app ensures you have full control over messages, files, photos, and videos you share, either in group settings or in one-on-one communication – something that’s obviously a priority when you’re sexting with strangers. Every single message is encrypted with a unique key and you can control who sees it as well as how long it is live. Better yet the app doesn’t require any personal information to sign up, so even your email and phone number stay private. The app is used by everyone from human rights activists to celebrities for personal security and offers a unique twist on sexting in a totally protected digital environment.
Cons: You’ll need to know who you’re sexting before you log on, since finding matches isn’t an option.
5. Confide
Best for: Total privacy
Why we like it: If privacy is a top concern when it comes to sexting, you’ll find relief using Confide, the confidential messenger service that works with iMessage, texts, photos, documents, and voice messages.
Pros: It’s well known for providing end-to-end encryption and disappearing messages, but the most notable aspect is its screenshot protection that uses special technology so screenshots are captured as a grey blur on most platforms. Perfect for those who thrive off of visual stimulation, the app allows you to send even your most suggestive photos with peace of mind knowing that if a screenshot is attempted, it probably won’t come out right — plus, the recipient will be ejected from the message and you, as the sender, get alerted.
Cons: It lacks the community aspect of the previous apps – but it’s a great option for taking things to the next level with someone you’ve already met.
BONUS: Plenty of Fish
Best for: Connecting quickly
Why we like it: Certainly not a new app, but most definitely a staple, Plenty of Fish offers a casual hookup environment where sparking a conversation is incredibly easy.
Pros: In one of the rare cases where the app version is seemingly years ahead of the desktop experience, the Plenty of Fish app is incredibly easy to navigate and gives you plenty of options for discovering others, including searching by who is nearby, browsing who has already viewed your profile, and playing a Tinder-like hot or not game. The app even has a section that shows you which profiles are most likely to respond to you, greatly reducing the time it takes to get a satisfying sexting conversation rolling.
Cons: You’ll need to fish through the members who are here looking for something more serious.
BONUS: Kaboom
Best for: Beginner sexters
Why we like it: Kaboom gives you ultimate control over the content you share digitally, including where you share content and how long it stays live.
Pros: Using Kaboom essentially gives you the experience of racing against time to discover content others are sharing. Because what you share disappears, it encourages a playful environment to experiment and bring out hidden sides of your sexual nature you might usually keep dormant. The app is basically a private message generating service that allows you to create an HTTPS-protected web address, which will work through SMS, email, WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, and more, meaning others you communicate with don’t even have to have the app to view your self-destructing messages.
Cons: It lacks the robust filter functionality of the other apps when searching for users to chat with.
BONUS: Zoosk
Why we like it: Zoosk has arguably one of the best online dating app interfaces on the market with a clean, distraction-free design.
Pros: The online dating platform isn’t really intended for any one specific use, so you’ll find individuals on it who are interested in all ranges of sexual interaction. As a perk, the app features a photo verification feature so you know the person you are communicating with actually lives up to the photos they’re showcasing. The app is used by 40 million members worldwide, has over 8 million verified photos, and facilitates the sending of over 3 million messages per day. If you want a low pressure environment where you can trust the person you’re communicating with actually looks as good as advertised, Zoosk is a no-brainer.
Cons: Since you’re accessing a wide range of intentions, finding someone to sext with can be more time consuming than the other apps.
BONUS: Wild
Best for: Connecting with real users
Why we like it: Chatting with a profile you can tell is fake takes the fun out of sexting — but on Wild, users need to be verified (sending a thumbs up photo to the app to check against the pictures you’re claiming are you), so your fantasies won’t be ruined by the sudden thought this person might actually be pretty gross looking.
Pros: You can also set your search parameters to filter out anyone who’s here for something more serious, which makes the experience even more efficient. Plus, you can set your profile to invisible while you’re chatting with a match to minimize distractions.
Cons: You’ll need to verify your photo, so if you’re looking for more anonymity this one might not be for you.
